How To Flirt With Women
Let's talk about the
concept of "flirting", and why it's SO important that you
understand exactly what it is and how to do it with women.
To begin with, most men
need lessons on how to flirt.
Of course, all women know what flirting is, and they respond
VERY differently to flirting communication than they do to
typical social communication.
If you understand flirting and sexual tension, you can begin
conversations with women and have them INSTANTLY feeling
ATTRACTION for you. If you DON'T understand how flirting and
sexual tension work, then success with women is going to remain
far from you. I'm going to suggest that you learn how to flirt
well, then do it RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING in your interactions
with women to SET THE RIGHT TONE.
Think of flirting like playing. Remember when you were a kid and
you used to "play fight" with your friends? What's the
difference between "play" wrestling and "real" wrestling? And
how do you know the difference when it's happening... when your
friend runs up and pushes you down, then jumps on you and tries
to pin you?
The answer is YOU JUST KNOW. It's obvious to humans (and other
animals, by the way) when someone is "playing" and when they're
serious. Flirting is similar.
If you start talking to a woman and say "Hi, you're very pretty.
You probably have a boyfriend, right?" in a normal tone of
voice, you're NOT flirting. On the other hand, if you say "Hi, I
realize that you're probably shy because you get no attention
from men... so I thought I'd come over here and pay attention to
you..." it's OBVIOUS that you're not being serious.
This is flirting.
By the way, flirting IS NOT simply telling jokes, or trying to
be "cute". One of the concepts that I teach is called "Cocky & Funny."
Cocky & Funny is simply a powerful, ultra- concentrated way of
flirting and creating sexual tension with a specific kind of
humor. It's so funny to me how some guys write in because they
"can't see themselves being
Cocky & Funny around women"...
because they don't want to come across as "jerks".
This really cracks me up... because it's obvious to me that
these guys JUST DON'T GET IT. So let me explain this whole thing
a different way...
If you know how to communicate the right way, women will respond
to you RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING with a HIGH LEVEL of sexual
interest and ATTRACTION. When you know how to incorporate
flirting in a Cocky & Funny way, which is really a form of
"adult verbal play", you tune in to a certain frequency in a
woman's mind, and cause her to go into a very special kind of
emotional state.
One of the keys to effective flirting is to "get it". In other
words, you have to actually get out there and practice so you
get a "feel" for how it works. I think a lot of guys give up
when they try a cute line or technique and a woman responds by
either directly saying or giving that look that says "You're a
loser."
Instead of just realizing that they need more practice or that
the woman might have just been in a bad mood or even one of
those horrible "I don't have a sense of humor" cases, they take
it personally and decide to just have it mean that they're a
failure. But take my word for it... once you learn how to flirt
effectively and communicate in the language of "adult play" you
WILL SIMPLY NOT BELIEVE how women will respond to you.
Here are examples of some of one of my favorite topics to "riff
on" when flirting... the topic of getting married and us being
in a relationship... and I'll give it to you in the form of a
sample dialogue. Keep in mind, I might have a conversation like
this one with a woman that I just met five minutes earlier...
OK, let's say I'm talking to a girl and she starts asking me
what I do for a living.
I might say "What, you don't have a job? And you're already
trying to figure out if I can support you?".
Her: "I have a good job, and I make good money"
Me: "Nice. I like that in a woman. Want to get married? We could
leave for Vegas right now and be married in about 4 or 5 hours.
I need a woman with money."
Her: <Laughter> "OK, that sounds like a plan"
Me: "But wait a minute... do you think you can support the both
of us on your income? I really want to be a stay at home
husband... you know, keep an eye on the TV and such."
Her: "Oh, no... I won't support you."
Me: "Well, then I'm breaking up with you. It's over between us.
I was going to marry you, then divorce you a week later and take
half your money."
Her: <Laughter> "You can't break up with me! I'm not even your
girlfriend."
Me: "That's all the more reason."
...do you get what's going on here?
I'm taking a normal
conversation topic (her job and income) and redirecting the
conversation in a flirtatious,
Cocky & Funny way to create a fun
mood and sexual tension (by suggesting marriage, divorce, and
breaking up over her not supporting me, etc.). If the above
example doesn't make any sense to you, then take that as a sign
that you need to get out and practice more.
Try it on a waitress or two.
When you ask for something and she says "I'm sorry, we don't
have that", just say "OK, this relationship isn't working out...
I'm going to have to break up with you." In fact, you can say
this in just about ANY situation with ANY woman where she's
saying something that you don't like, and it's funny.
When you communicate like this, you're FLIRTING, you're TEASING,
and you're initiating a DIFFERENT KIND OF COMMUNICATION than
most men initiate. And as soon as the woman you're talking to
"engages" you in this kind of dialogue, THE GAME IS ON.
There are a LOT of ways you can flirt, and a lot of ways you can
be Cocky & Funny that DON'T REQUIRE WORDS.
If a woman looks at you and raises one eyebrow, look back at her
and do the same... only exaggerate it. If a woman puts her hand
on your arm, look down at it, then look up at her in a surprised
way, then raise your eyebrows as if you just had a major "ah
ha!" realization... then start smiling and nodding your head as
if you just realized that she wants you. This is a powerful
combination because it's funny, and it exaggerates the meaning
in her touching you.
There are a MILLION ways to flirt like this, but the point that
I'm trying to make is that you NEED TO START DOING IT RIGHT FROM
THE BEGINNING OF YOUR INTERACTIONS WITH WOMEN. It will set off
all of your conversations with women on the right foot, and
start a dialogue that creates sexual tension and ATTRACTION. If
you DON'T learn how to communicate with women like this you'll
have BORING, "NORMAL" conversations that NEVER lead to sexual
tension and ATTRACTION.
Remember, women can tell INSTANTLY whether you're flirting with
them or not. If you are, and you're doing it in a subtle,
charming way, you'll get amazing responses. One of the keys to
flirting and creating ATTRACTION effectively is projecting
confidence and indifference both in your voice tone and body
language as you do it. Another key is projecting an
understanding of how male/female ATTRACTION works to the women
that you're flirting with.
And what's the best way to learn these two things? My 'Double
Your Dating' ebook!
I explain the most important beliefs to project, and exactly how
to project them so the woman you're talking to senses INSTANTLY
and at an UNCONSCIOUS level that you know how to communicate on
many levels with her... all through body language, voice tone,
and words.
Of course, I also teach many, many ways to tease, use Cocky &
Funny, and flirt with women... including all of my personal
favorites.
And if you haven't
downloaded my online eBook "Double Your Dating", then you need
to do that right now. Inside I teach you many of my very
favorite flirting techniques, and give a detailed explanation of
my Cocky & Funny technique. You can go and download it
here - just follow the 'ebook'
link and download your copy.
...and read it, learn it, and use it.
Talk to you soon,
David D.
